2017 Reflections

It is New Year's Eve and also the eve of my 32nd birthday!  I will most likely not be awake at midnight unless little man decides he wants to eat around that time😏 but I did want to take a little time to reflect on the last year and how the Lord has blessed us.

Obviously the biggest change was welcoming Westley into the world.  It's been an adjustment for sure but also a great joy.  The timing of his birth allowed me to be off work through the holidays which was a blessing!  We were able to go to Missouri for Thanksgiving, it's been probably 7 years since I had been back for a major holiday.

We also lost 2 grandparents, Howie's grandmother passed away in May just days before we got there to visit.  And my grandfather passed away the weekend before Thanksgiving, once again days before we got there to visit.  We were at least able to be there for their services and to spend more time with family.

Howie finished more classes, very successfully I might add.  He will start applying for different programs this semester and prayfully gets into one.  I continued working only four days a week which allowed me more time with Sam.  I go back to work next week but only for 2 days a week.

We survived Hurricane Irma, really the worst part was dealing with work for a good 2-3 weeks afterwards.  

I also wanted to take this time to thank everyone for supporting me with this blog and continuing to read even when I go months between posts! 

Happy New Year 2018!!

Samantha's 3 1/2 Year update

I'm way overdue for an update on Sam!  I cannot believe how big she is getting, she's in the 85th percentile for weight and 80th percentile in height.  She's very energetic and outgoing.  Constantly asking if she can go to school.  I finally signed her up for a free trial tumbling class and she loved it!  We are planning to start her next month, it's only once a week and the price is very reasonable.

Sleep wise, we put her to bed at 8 pm most nights but she's usually not asleep until 8:30 or 9.  It's a constant revolving door of I'm thirsty, I'm hungry, I have to go potty, I'm scared, I want you to sleep with me, I need this toy, etc.  She wakes up around 7-8 am most mornings and Howie gets up with her while I wait for Westley to wake up.  She stopped napping the day after her 3rd birthday when we took away for pacifier.  I really miss her napping!  She'll take a rare one every so often if she's really tired.

I've gotten off track doing tot school with her since being pregnant/having Westley but she can sing her ABC's, count to 15, knows colors, and most shapes.  The last few days I've been doing little letter tracing worksheets in the mornings since she's constantly asking to do "real school".  She enjoys doing crafts and helping in the kitchen.

About 4 months ago she became fully potty trained.  She had been going pee for quite awhile but #2 was a different story until one day it just clicked and she's been in underwear ever since even at night.  I've been really surprised that she's only had maybe 2 accidents at night.  She insisted on wearing underwear at night once everything clicked.  

Sam has adjusted so well to being a big sister, we haven't really had any jealousy issues.  She's definitely been pushing boundaries to see how far she can get but that seems pretty normal for her age.  We are really pushing her to "listen the first time".  She usually loves to "help" with baby brother and likes to hold him and take pictures with him.  A few times we have caught her trying to pick him up!

Here are some pics from the last few months!  

Sam loved getting to swim more this summer.

She loves all her cousins, both the Florida ones and Missouri ones.

This one is so sweet.

I can really tell she looks like me in this one.

Always a daddy's girl.

She put all the ornaments on the tree this year.

Westley's Birth Story

I've been away for awhile but I find this is the best place to record some things.  I've shared Samantha's birth story and now its time for Westley's.

It started on Monday October 16th, I was at my 39 week appointment (39w3 days).  I was very over being pregnant and ready for him to just  get here which my doctor definitely noticed.  I was at 3 cm and 25% effaced.  I had mentioned that I might be leaking amniotic fluid, as she was checking for that she asked if I wanted an aggressive membrane sweep.  My answer was "YES!"  little did I know she would accidently break my water in the process! (9:30 am)  It was quite the event in that tiny exam room, amniotic fluid got all over the doctor and floor.  Her and the nurse were scrambling to clean it up as I'm sitting on the table, frantically calling Howie to let him know the baby was coming today!  They got me a "diaper" to wear and said to head to the hospital as soon as possible.  As I'm driving home I had maybe 1 or 2 contractions that weren't too bad.  Howie had called his mom at work to come get Sam so as soon as she got there to pick Sam up we headed to the hospital.

We got checked in pretty quickly since the doctor had called to let them know we were coming.  Once we were in a room, I requested to just have a hep lock (I think that's what its called) instead of a full IV so that I could still move around easily.  My goal was to make it as long as I could without an epidural.  We were pretty much left alone to labor any way I wanted which was very nice.  Every 1-2 hours they would come hook me up to the contraction machine for about 15 minutes.  The contractions were very slowly getting a little more painful but I was still able to walk around, take a shower, and hang out with Sam once she got there for a little bit.  They checked me twice during this time and the first time (4:00 pm) I didn't even want to know where I was because it still felt like early labor and I didn't want to get discouraged.  For the next 5 hours it was more of the same so when they came to check me at 9:30 pm I had a feeling what was coming.  And sure enough I was still at 4 cm and 75% effaced.  Since it had been 12 hours with little progress on my own the doctor wanted to go ahead and start Pitocin.  Once your water has broken they want the baby out in 24 hours.  At this point I was tired and just wanted some sleep and progress so I went ahead and asked for the epidural.  I was not interested in seeing how painful Pitocin contractions could be.

The anesthesiologist did a great job on my epidural.  I was able to go to sleep, it didn't bruise, I didn't need a bolus as any time, and I could feel just enough when it was time to push.  Around 11:30 pm we were both able to get a little rest, they came to check me again around 12:30-1:00 (this time is a little fuzzy) but I was at 8 cm, it didn't take long for the Pitocin to do its thing!  Around 1:30 am (I think) I was starting to feel pressure like I needed to push, after telling the nurse that, she checked me again and I was at 10cm.  She went ahead and let the dr know and started having me do some practice pushes.  I probably should have let her know it only took a few pushes with Sam because after 1 or 2 contractions she had me stop and wait for the dr.  Once the dr was there I pushed through 2 (?) more contractions and he was out!  Westley Jude Butler was born at 2:04 am, weighing 8 lbs 9 oz and 20.5 inches long.  Thankfully there were no complications like Sam had so we were able to do skin to skin right away, he eventually crawled up and latched on his own (very cool thing to see).  

 Spending some time with my girl before she becomes a big sister.

Westley was probably about an hour old here.

Daddy holding Westley for the first time.

First picture of mommy and Westley.

One of the nurses made this cute name tag for his bassinet.

I'm now about 8 weeks post-partum and about 5 pounds from my pre-pregnancy weight.  I started the food portion of the 21 day fix to get my eating under control, not sure when or if I'll start the exercise portion since I'm breastfeeding and don't want to mess with my supply.  My recovery was easier this time versus with Sam but breastfeeding was a bit rougher.  We pushed through and around 5 or 6 weeks is when it became easier and painless (after dealing with mastitis and some cracking and bleeding). 

Westley is, so far, a completely different baby than Sam was, which is what we prayed for!  He rarely cries and sleeps well.  He's not a fan of the carseat but we might have ruined him with the long drive to Missouri.  He just slept through the night for the first time (10:30-6) although that was in bed with us.  I'm excited to see his personality start to show in the next few months.

This is happening...

I'm starting this post 2 days after we found out....We're Pregnant!

We found out the day before Valentine's Day and this is how we told our parents and family.

Coming October 2017

I should have guessed it by how I was feeling that week, the crazy moodiness and gas/bloating.  Oh my goodness, I never have bad gas unless I'm pregnant but I don't remember it starting this early with Sam😂. 

I feel much more relaxed this time versus with Sam I was incredibly anxious through the 1st trimester.  With our first pregnancy ending in a miscarriage, it made me much more cautious with Sam.  At this point I know there's very little you can do (in most circumstances) that will cause a miscarriage and we trust the Lord with this little one and His plan.  So I'm enjoying my coffee while I can, until the morning sickness kicks in, and still exercising.  

And the morning sickness kicked in around 6 weeks just like with Sam.  This time it's just all day nausea versus throwing up every morning, not sure which one is worse!  I took Unisom and b6 before but it made me so groggy the other day that I ended up asking my doctor for Zofran and it is amazing!  

We went to the Dr around 7 weeks and didn't have a babysitter for Sam so she came with us.  She was really confused, she thought we were getting the baby then😂.  We heard the heartbeat on the ultrasound, the heart rate was around 150.  Unfortunately, because I have a tilted uterus it makes it harder to get measurements and pictures this early on so the doctor wants me to come back in 2 weeks.  The funny part is with Sam I would have loved having another appointment so soon but now I have to fit it in with Howie and I's work schedules and find a babysitter since the only appointment I could get is while he is at work😩.  I'm glad it will only be every 4 weeks after this!

Like I said she wasn't able to get a good picture.

For the most part, Sam has been super sweet, she tells baby good morning and gives hugs and kisses, prays for it, and has been carrying around the ultrasound images so she can "see the baby again".

How to grow your savings

If you are tired of using credit cards for unexpected expenses and vacations you need to make a change with your savings!  I've compiled a few ways that we currently or have previously used to grow our savings.  I touched on some of this is in another post but I wanted to go into deeper detail.  An important thing for this is your mindset; your savings account is not just "extra" money.  Be firm in knowing what you are saving for and your financial goals.

I love Dave Ramsey quotes!

 

One of the best things you can do to increase your savings is to automatically have a certain percentage of your paycheck go into savings.  Ideally you would want to have it set up for 10%.  If that seems too much at first, try 5% and once you're used to that, increase it until you get to 10%.  The key here is to have your direct deposit (everybody uses that now, right?) set up to automatically deposit that percentage into a savings account.  When figuring our income for our budget I only count the 90% that goes into our checking account, it doesn't take long to get used to a  slightly lower amount.

Set up two different savings accounts.  Use one as an emergency fund and keep it at a set amount.  If you have to dip into it for an emergency make sure you build it back up asap.  Use the second one as savings for anything big, such as vacations, birthday parties, special occasions, etc.  I like keeping money separate because it helps in knowing where you stand, and you're less likely to go over your budget.  As far as the amount that you want to keep in an emergency fund, it really varies based on your expenses.  If you own a house, I recommend having enough to at least pay your mortgage for 3-6 months.  If you rent and don't have a lot of debt you could probably get away with less.  One thing I want to do this year is increase our goal for our emergency fund, right now its really not a large amount but we are consistent with it.  I would like to increase it by 50% each year so that when we do eventually buy a house we have enough to cover our mortgage starting out.  

 

What we've done in the past to save money for a vacation was any change or cash we had, we put in a jar and let accumulate.  We ended up with around $100 to use as spending money on top of what we had already budgeted for the trip.  Now of course this only works if you use cash somewhat often, which we don't now.  We are planning a trip to San Diego later this year to see some of Howie's family; and while we have planned out how we're paying for plane tickets and some spending money, I'm trying to find a way to save even more without making a big dent in our checking account.  My plan right now is each pay day or maybe even weekly withdraw $10-$20 and put in our change jar.  I want it to be a small enough amount that it doesn't affect our budget but enough that we accumulate a decent amount before we go.

If you were to look at what we spend big chunks of money on its definitely not material things, we love going places and having experiences.  We also both have family that live far away that we try to visit each year.   To be transparent both of our parents are generous and help us out sometimes when traveling.  We appreciate it so much and hopefully someday we will be able to do that.  That being said we also plan our trips way in advance.  We usually know 6+ months in advance where we want to go and when.  This gives ample time to plan and save.  We do not use credit cards for anything while traveling.  We know how much money we have saved and budget to that amount.  

The most important part of getting your finances together is really such a mental thing, I cannot emphasize that enough!  Setting goals, sticking to them, remembering those goals when you want to make an expensive purchase that you probably can't afford.  That vacation you're planning will be a lot more enjoyable when you're not worried about the credit card bill that's waiting for you when you get home!

 

If you're looking for specific advice on a financial situation feel free to ask, I would love to help!  Or if you have a topic you would like to read about, let me know😄

My Student Loan Story

Like most college students these days, I took out multiple student loans through college.  I hope this story is an encouragement to those struggling to dig out of debt, whether student loans or credit cards. I touched on some of this in my Financial Advice post, but I wanted to go into a little deeper detail.

My first two years of college I went to a community college using my A+ scholarship, and the volleyball program paid for my books.  I also had some scholarships that helped with living expenses my first semester.  After that, I got a job working the graveyard shift at Mcdonalds.  I graduated with my AA with no debt.

 

My third year of school I transferred to UCM to continue towards my Bachelors.  This is where I took out my first student loan, it was only in the amount of $850, but it set the precedent of an easy way to pay for school, and I had no thoughts of when I would pay it off.  I did save money that year living at home, commuting to school 2-3 days a week, and working 2 jobs.  Looking back now I probably could have used some of that money to pay towards my classes.

My fourth and fifth years (I changed my major and it added a year)  I went to MSU, where I graduated.  This is where most of my debt came from.  Both years I took out the max amount of $5,500, and while that covered my classes, I used a credit card for my books.  I lived in an apartment with 2 roommates and worked at Walgreens 30+ hours per week.  By the time I graduated I had accumulated around $18,000 in student loan debt; while this seems pale in comparison to what some people graduate with, what I struggled with was being unable to find a job in my field after graduation.  While I worked the whole time I was in college, it essentially did me no good, because I had no experience in my field and I was so busy working; I wasn't able to do internships to gain that experience.  My parents did help anytime they could, buying me groceries or just giving me some extra spending money.

After graduating, you have 6 months before they start sending you bills to start repayment.  At this time I was living in Mississippi with my sister and just baby-sitting, so I was able to set up for a deferment.  Of course, interest still accumulates during this time.  When we moved to Florida and I started at Walgreens again - when my 6 month deferment was up I started making minimum payments.  Most people probably know that payments are generally set up to be paid over a 10 year period, so on that low of a loan (comparatively speaking) my payments weren't too insane.  However, after Howie and I got married, things got a little tight while he was studying for his real estate license and my hours kept getting cut at work.  I set up another 6 month deferment, with interest still accruing.  When that 6 months was over, we went back to making minimum payments.  Keep in mind between those two deferments I essentially added an extra year to the loan!  

A few months into just making minimum payments we got serious about our money.  We had moved to a less expensive apartment and paid off Howie's motorcycle.  We decided to use the snowball method that Dave Ramsey teaches.  We basically took what money we had been using for the motorcycle payment and added that to the minimum amount on the smallest loan.  Within months that one was paid off!  While paying extra on that one we were still making minimum payments on the other 3.  After the smallest one was paid off we started using that money towards the next smallest loan which was quite a bit more and probably took a year to pay off.  We used this method to slowly chip away at the debt.  There were of course months where money was more tight and we would cut back the payment a little; but we stayed the course.  The last two years whenever we would get our tax return, we put a huge chunk towards whichever loan we were working on getting paid off next.  I know not everyone gets a big tax return but if you get a bonus or inheritance you can do the same thing.

Next month I will happily make that last payment, and we are so excited to be done with those student loans!  Which, by the way, were originally scheduled to be payed off in 2020!  Our next goal will be putting the money that we were using for the loan payment each month towards our car payment and hopefully have it paid off next year (1 year ahead of schedule).

As someone who has dealt with student loans, I still do not think that free college for everyone is a good idea.  One of the reasons being when you are the one taking out the loans, working through college, etc you are a lot more likely to take your classes seriously because you really don't want to have to pay to take a class a second time!  It also taught me a lot about time management, budgeting, and working hard.  While looking back, sometimes, I think it would have been nice to have the quintessential college experience,  I'm glad I didn't.  One thing that would have helped me back then was having mandatory financial aid guidance.  Every year when financial aid was approved I just accepted the full amount they offered when I may have been able to get away with a lesser amount.

Anyone else have student loan success stories?

21 Day Fix- Week 2

Alright let's start off with a little honesty!  I didn't really want to write this post:(. I've been pretty bummed this week because after the initial 3 lbs lost, I lost 1 lb at the beginning of the week.  That means basically all week I have weighed the exact same.  And the thing is, I've been sticking to the meal plan (mostly) and doing the workouts!  I'm hoping it's just the whole gaining muscle thing but it seriously doesn't help my motivation.  I need to be able to see some results.  However, I have 1 week left and I'm determined to finish it strong and see what happens.  This is where taking measurements beforehand would have come in handy.  I'm not sore from the workouts anymore and this is the week that they give an option of 2 workouts a day so I'm going to try that, at least a few days.  Edited to add I have definitely noticed a difference in flexibility, can actually touch my toes with some of the stretches.  And my sweet tooth has not tempted me like I thought it would either.

A few things that might be hendering me is I don't drink near enough water and not eating enough protein.  Those are my goals for the week.

I tried this combination for a protein shake and it tasted ok but was way too thick.  If we had ice that might have helped.

 

I really like the corn tortillas, added some scrambled eggs, little cheese and salsa, made a pretty tasty breakfast.

 

Our daily budgeting tips

As promised here are my best daily money saving tips.  I'm sure some of these you have heard before, but its things that we specifically do to save money.  Also keep in mind, both Howie and I are natural savers, him even more so than me, that makes some of these things pretty easy for us.  

1.  Pack a lunch for work!  This is really a matter of self-discipline, we eat sandwiches A LOT.  We refuse to spend that kind of money eating out every day.  That's not to say we don't ever spend money out on lunch, we just know it's a bad habit to create.  

2.  Don't pay extra just for convenience.  An example for this would be diapers.  I try to only buy diapers when I have a coupon and they are on sale.  This does require planning and stocking up,  obviously there have been times that I've forgotten and unfortunately had to pay full price, but it is worth the effort on certain items.  I like using an app called "coupons" to find coupons for diapers.  I'm not big on couponing for everything, but for diapers and personal care items I do try.  

3.  Buy off brand as much as possible.  This is pretty self explanatory, however; there are exceptions, with some things buying cheap can be expensive.  The vast majority of groceries we buy are off brand products.  With items such as tools, some cleaning supplies, detergents, etc... We do buy slightly higher quality.

4.  Make as few trips to the grocery store as possible.  We generally go once a week and get whatever we need for the whole week.  Sometimes I will make a second trip later in the week to get more fruit or veggies and I always spend more than I had planned.  This involves extra planning to make sure you get everything you're going to need for the week.  Meal planning is key with this one!  I know some people only go once a month or once every two weeks, and are able to get everything then. We frankly don't have the space to store that much food.  Once a week is what works for our family.  Wasting food is where we really struggle, we really need to work on that!

5.  Accept any and all hand me downs.  Especially with kid's clothes!  I don't even know how much money we have saved not having to buy clothes each season/size.  Howie and I also wear our clothes out,  we literally wait for holes to appear before buying new jeans lol.  Thankfully for work I wear scrubs everyday, so I don't feel the need to buy a lot of clothes.  

6.  Utilize your local library.  Sam has thankfully been given quite a few books, because I am all about just checking books and movies out from the library (FREE).  One thing to be careful of is not losing/breaking movies.  Sam broke a DVD awhile  ago and cost us $25.

7.  Find a good budgeting app.  We previously used the Mint app and it was really helpful.  It links to your bank account and shows how much money you spend in different categories.  Unfortunately, our bank updated their app and it's not compatible with Mint anymore.  I need to find another app that will work because its super helpful.  If you're like me, sometimes at the end of the month you sit there thinking "where did all this money go?" and that's where an app becomes helpful.  

8.  Self-control.  This is probably the hardest, but in order to keep a budget it is essential!  I struggle with this more than Howie, which, is probably why he doesn't like going to the store with me😉.  There have been many times I've put something like clothes or shoes for Sam in my cart and MOST of the time I turn back around and put them right back up, recognizing she really doesn't NEED it.

What are some of your money saving tips?

Full disclosure:  We are by no means perfect in this area but are constantly striving for improvement.  Our #1 financial goal is to be good stewards of what God has given us.

Reflections on the last 2 weeks

When I decided to post every day (M-F) for 3 weeks I was really wanting to challenge myself to see if I could come up with that much content and if it would be quality stuff to read and write.  At the end of week 2 I can see that while I may be able to write every day it's not all created equally.  I discovered I really like writing about financial issues (I already have 3 or 4 more ideas) and it appears people like reading that as well.  I also discovered that writing about food and fitness is not something I particularly enjoy and while I will finish my posts about the 21 day fix, some of the other stuff won't be making another appearance.  Of course I'll always enjoy writing about Sam and mom life stuff so that won't be going anywhere:).    

A little on my finance background.  When I initially chose Finance as my major I had wanted to turn it into a career as a financial advisor.  However, the further along in my schooling I got it became apparent, that profession makes their money off of selling life insurance (for the most part) and I'm not a salesperson.  I really wanted to help people with financial decisions, goals, budgeting, etc.  I'm hopeful that maybe I can do a little of that with this blog.  Still praying about what that would entail specifically and if that's where the Lord is guiding me.  

Starting next week my goal will be to post around 2-3 times a week and hopefully it will be better content.  Quality over quantity is my goal.  I really do appreciate everyone who takes the time to read these, thanks for your support!  I hope everyone will enjoy the slightly new direction.

I love adding random pictures😉

 

Oh the Joys of Childbirth

I made this list shortly after I had Sam:)

Things I wanted to pass on to other first time mom's and also to remember for the next one.

A little throwback Thursday!

1.  Take a shower as soon as you can, I for some reason put it off till I got home thinking it would hurt or something but it felt amazing.

2.  The cramps (after-contractions) while breastfeeding are pretty painful in the beginning but lessen in intensity as the days go by (stopped after about 5 days for me)

3.  Don't be afraid to use the lactation consultant.  Ours was awesome and without her help I probably would have given up.

4.  Bring a stool softener with you, I didn't get mine till the 2nd night and you can take it twice a day.  Keep taking it when you get home (3 weeks after I'm still taking it once a day when I remember)

5.  Bring some fruit/veggies to snack on to help things go smoother.  I had way to much fast food while in the hospital cause the hospital food was so bad.

6.  Don't feel bad if your hubby changes most of the diapers the first couple days:). 

7.  Don't let them pressure you into supplementing if you are planning to breastfeed.  Your body makes just the amount they need.  Sam went 9 hours at one point in the hospital without latching well because we were still trying to figure out the breastfeeding but we figured it out and she was fine.

What other advice would you pass on to a first time momma??

What I Ate Wednesday

To start off when I was first planning these 3 weeks of posting Monday through Friday I wrote down what each day's post would be.  Unfortunately I shouldn't have planned multiple "what I ate Wednesday's" because I pretty much eat the same thing and it's really not very interesting lol but it's 7 am, we're headed to the zoo soon and I still need to do my workout so here it is😉

For breakfast I tried the other protein powder I had bought on clearance a couple weeks ago and I had to choke it down😩.  I mixed it with just some almond milk and then had a half serving of grapes.  I have such a hard time eating breakfast, food doesn't even sound good until about 11.

 

For lunch I had one red container of scrambled eggs with a little salsa and then some carrots with this delicious Greek yogurt dip.  This is such a weird combination for lunch.  I still wasn't very hungry but had to go to work and wouldn't be able to eat for quite awhile.  

 

For dinner at work I just had a turkey sandwich with mustard and cheese, celery and peanut butter, and some cantaloupe.  I also had a banana and a Spark as my snacks.

 

21 Day Fix- Week 1

Yay!  I completed week 1 and survived those workouts!  I never did take measurements but I have lost 3 pounds so far.  Some things I really like about this program right now:

 1.  I can still eat carbs and cheese!  Granted they are limited but I don't feel deprived and I plan out what I'm having each day to best take advantage of what I can have.  There were a few days that I went slightly over and I'm ok with that:). 

2.  It forces me to get out of comfort zone and cook more.  Thank goodness for Pinterest!

3.  It is helping Sam eat better as well since we aren't eating out or eating a bunch of junk.  Saves us money not eating out as well!

4.  The workouts are kicking my butt!  It's only 30 minutes and the first few days I was soooo sore.  I have had to do a lot of the modified moves simply because I'm not in great shape right now, hopefully by the end I won't be needing to do those at all.  As far as equipment, I've only needed some small dumbbells and a towel (I need to get a mat instead of using the towel).  

And the not so great things:

1.  I'm not a huge fan of the shakeology.  I really should be having one after my workout each day, it just doesn't sound good:(. I did use it to make these healthy muffins that surprisingly turned out really good.  

2. The yoga workout.  I'm just not a fan of yoga probably because I'm the most inflexible person ever; instead of doing that workout I walked a mile.

3.  One thing I haven't cut out is my coffee creamer and that is simply because people have to be around me each day and I would rather nobody be miserable😂.  

Here are a few meals I've had so far with this taco salad on top being my favorite.  I had this 3 times this week and I'm still not tired of it.  I mixed in some kidney beans with the meat to stretch it a little further.  Technically beans are considered a carb but since it's mixed in I can't really measure it, I didn't worry about it.   

As you can see I love my cheese!

Steak, (small) baked potato, and squash.

Fried egg on a piece of toast.

What are your favorite go to healthy recipes?

Financial Advice

I've contemplated many times how to write this post as I'm never quite sure how much detail to go into.  I love reading articles about how people got out of debt, however, most of those are written by people who make a decent amount of money so they obviously have more to work with.  I have a bit of a financial background (BS in Finance) but not much of these tips come from what I learned in the classroom😉.  When I started this, I originally had more day to day budget tips as well, but it was way too much so those will be in a seperate post later this week or next week.  This is more long-term financial advice.

I'll start with why this has been such a difficult post to put together and my #1 tip:  Trust the Lord and pray.  To be honest there have been some months in the last year when Howie was out of work that the only explanation I have for how we even had money in the bank is the Lord providing in various ways through the generosity of others to providing side jobs, raises, etc.   

My 2nd tip is cutting the cord!  As a married couple we've never had cable only Netflix, Hulu, and an antenna to get local channels.  All the shows we watch are on those, and while I might have to wait awhile for the whole season to be on Netflix, it's worth it. 

My 3rd tip is using the snowball effect to pay off debt. This comes from Dave Ramsey, and for me it's really more of a mental thing.  We started with my smallest student loan, and paid as much as possible, it was such a great feeling to have one of them gone.  I had 4 total, and will be making the last payment next month! 3 years ahead of schedule!

My 4th tip is to have a plan for extra money.  I prefer to actually write it all down, where literally every dollar is going to go.  The biggest chunk we get is our tax return, and the first thing we do is tithe 10% of it, then build up savings to whatever our goal happens to be, then we use a large portion to pay towards debt. Lastly, we look at what we have planned through the year, and set aside what we need for big things like vacations and birthdays; this also keeps us from needing credit cards.  

My 5th tip is to pay your car insurance 6 months at a time when possible.  I started doing this years ago. Unfortunately, I was using a credit card, because I didn't have the cash set aside and I ended up paying more in interest than I was saving.  Now I have 10% of each paycheck directly deposited into our emergency savings account, which we keep at a certain minimum, and the extra that builds up on top of that is enough to pay the car insurance every 6 months.

My 6th tip is one I've heard for years which is whenever you get a raise, increase your percentage that you contribute to your 401k. This year I got one of the biggest raises I've ever gotten at almost 4% so I increased my 401k contribution from 4% to 5% and plan to do that each year.  The good thing about this is it's not money you're used to seeing in your paycheck, so you don't even miss it.

My 7th tip and last tip is NO credit cards.  I learned this the hard way, I got my first credit cards in college, and it was a great way to pay for books, and it was interest free at the time.  Fast forward to when Howie and I got married; we ended up having to use a good bit of a workman's comp settlement he got to pay off all my credit cards😞 - not a good feeling at all.  The good news is we haven't used them since, and will avoid them at all costs!  If you can't afford to pay cash for it, you can't afford it! That's why an emergency account is so important.  I feel like this last statement might come across pretty harsh, but when you really think about it, there's quite a bit of truth there.  

What is your best financial advice?

Tot School Week 8

It was my original goal to start back to tot school with Sam on Monday but between Howie starting school back that day, a doctor's appointment, a grocery store run, and having to be at work at 1, I pushed it back to Tuesday.  I'm going to try have a bit more of a routine with her and "school" so she starts to know what to expect each day.

On Tuesday we started with praying and our bible story, I want to read a page each day of her little bible. And also worked on her memory verse from Sunday school which was "God is our provider".  I didn't think about it until Thursday but I could have done creation crafts with her each day since that's what we were reading.  Next week I'll read ahead and see what extra we can do.

 

After bible study we moved onto our new letter "M" and I was also trying to focus on the shape circle (although it really didn't work out like I had planned).  She used cotton swabs to paint her letter and worked on colors a bit with this as well.

 

She also "read" a couple of books to me.

 

Next was her favorite thing.  I've had some shaving cream in our hall closet forever that we aren't going to use and for some reason I feel like this was something we did in art class back in elementary school.  I just sprayed a bunch on the table and let her have at it.  She thought it was so fun to play with, I did attempt to show her how you can draw/write with it but she just loved the feeling in her hands lol which is completely appropriate for her age:). This is definitely something we will do again although I will probably take it outside and strip her down to her underwear and maybe add some food coloring to it as well.

 

On Wednesday daddy did her bible study with her before he left for work.  Then we did more with the letter M and colored her princess coloring sheets.

She was actually much more interested in eating the Cheerios. 

 

Thursday we just did our bible study and abc's then took advantage of the nice weather and played outside a lot!

 

Today is Friday and we will just do bible study and abc's before Howie and I both go to work then tonight take advantage of all of us being home and have some family time:)  

What are your Friday night plans?

Baked Chicken Caprese

To be completely transparent on here I am not a great cook.  I have a few dishes I cook well and I love to bake but Howie is the main (better) cook in our family.  However I was able to cook this dinner all by myself😉.  I found a basic recipe for an easy baked chicken caprese and a Parmesan crusted zucchini.

 

For the chicken I put 4 pieces of chicken breasts in a casserole dish, seasoned with pepper and sprayed olive oil on it, added sliced Roma tomatoes, a leaf of basil and some shredded mozzarella cheese to each one.  As you can see in the picture the cheese got a little too done, if I were to make it again I would add the cheese a little bit later.  I baked it for 45 minutes at 350 degrees.

 

For the zucchini I mixed together 1/2 cup of Parmesan cheese, 1/2 teaspoon of dry basil, and 1/4 teaspoon of garlic powder.  I sprayed olive oil on them as well and then sprinkled the above mixture on it.  Baked at 350 for 15 minutes then broiled for 3 minutes to get a little crispy.

 

What I ate Wednesday

Today was my first official day on the 21 day fix.  For breakfast I tried the shakeology, I mixed it in the blender with a little ice, a cup of 1% milk, 1 teaspoon vanilla extract and 1 teaspoon cinnamon.  This was one of the recommended recipes that came with the shakelogy and it was ok but the cinnamon was a bit too strong and I pretty much had to chug it.  I also had 1 scrambled egg with a little picante sauce.

 

I didn't have a morning snack since I'm usually not hungry until lunch and for lunch I had a turkey sandwich with cheese, lettuce and mustard on whole wheat bread with a piece of celery and some peanut butter.  I'm assuming that 2 pieces of bread is my two yellow (carb) containers.  Sandwiches are a staple in our house, that's where my carbs will be each day!

As you can see I like to use fine china😂

I had a banana and a Spark at work for my afternoon snack and then for dinner I had packed everything up in my containers but I forgot to take a picture before I put my salad all together.  It was leftover grilled chicken with a blue container (healthy fats) of mozzarella shredded cheese and for a dressing I used a Greek yogurt ranch dip that I had on hand because I hadn't thought of seeing what kind of dressings they recommended.  It was actually really good but that could just be because I was so hungry!  I also had some cantaloupe.

 

I've already got our dinners planned for the rest of the week, I have a feeling the tough part will be packing lunches/dinners for work.  

What's your favorite meal to take to work?

21 Day Fix Initial Review

I don't know about anybody else but to get back on track with healthy eating and exercising sometimes I gotta spend a little money.  With the thought being if I spend money on it (knowing how frugal we are) I'm more likely to stick with it, at least to get my money's worth:)  This time I went with the 21 day fix from beach body.  We did P90X a few years ago and I really liked the workouts but I just don't have time for hour plus workouts anymore or the patience to be honest.

What I like initially liked about this program is that the workouts are 30 minutes which is perfect for what I can do and the eating isn't as restrictive as other programs we've done.  Also its only 21 days which really isn't that long and I'm hoping to "reset" my body and get down a few pounds before getting pregnant again at some point.

Last week before I received everything in the mail I decided to go ahead and get a little jumpstart.  Which means getting some fruits and veggies and buying some new workout clothes:). I found this shake at work (Walgreens) on clearance for $5, can't beat that deal! I like to use the Spark from Advocare for an extra energy boost and to get more water.  I would also like to get some measuring tape before starting to see the difference there.

The top left picture is supposed to be of my new workout clothes, however, Howie informed me it looks like just a picture of my feet.  It's much easier to add a caption then remake that picture lol.

My first impression when I opened the box is how small the containers are😳.  However I started the eating part on Monday before this all came in the mail and I felt like I was pretty accurate with serving sizes until I got home and saw the actual serving sizes!  I hadn't planned on ordering the shakeology but they had a free offer so I'll try it for a week.  I read through most of the eating plan and something that really stood out was the substitutions page, it says "Three times a week, you can replace a yellow container with a treat".  I like this because I'm hoping it will help me not to feel deprived even if I don't eat a treat knowing that there is an option for it can be helpful mentally.  There is also an app (free) to help track your containers and workouts for each of the 21 days.

 

I'm hoping to share more each week on how it's going.  You can do anything for 3 weeks, right???  Now off to do the first workout!